Opinion: Husband's martyrdom, grief, responsibility and struggle; how the life of a martyr's wife changes
Whatever the dispute between martyr Captain Anshuman Singh's wife Smriti and his parents, I have personally felt the pain and seen with my own eyes how his wife has to fight a battle with the family after her husband's martyrdom. How the in-laws change their attitude towards the martyr's wife after her husband's martyrdom.
There is often a story of immense pain behind the martyrs who sacrifice their lives for the security of the country. The martyrs leave behind their entire family and that family is completely shattered. The parents lose the support of their old age and become helpless. Small children do not know why their father did not return and will never return. But, among all this, the martyr's wife has to bear the most pain. She accepts her husband's martyrdom with moist eyes, but she has to face challenges on every front. The life of the wives of martyrs is full of pain and struggle, they not only bear the grief of losing their husbands but also take up the responsibilities of their small children. Amidst all this, the changing colors of the in-laws work to increase their problems.
Captain Anshuman Singh was martyred while saving the lives of his comrades in Siachen on 19 July last year. After Anshuman Singh was awarded the Kirti Chakra, a video of his wife surfaced, in which she talked about her 5-month marriage and the discussion she had with her husband about the future. After this, Anshuman Singh's parents came forward and accused their daughter-in-law Smriti of leaving their house and taking away photo albums, clothes, and medals along with other items with her. Along with this, they have demanded a change in the army's NOK (Next of Kin) rules.
When a martyr leaves his family to protect the country, his wife has an unresolved worry in her mind every moment. When the news comes that her husband has been martyred, that moment becomes a nightmare not only for her but for the entire family. It is difficult to express this sorrow in words. The martyr's wife has to live with this grief, which includes taking care of her children and family along with the memories of her husband every day.
Life becomes a new challenge for the wife of a martyr. She not only has to face a financial crisis but also has to keep herself strong mentally and emotionally. Often, there are prejudices about her status in society. Many times she is looked at differently in society, which makes her struggle even more. After the martyrdom of her husband, she has to work hard day and night to ensure the safety, education, and future of herself and her children.
Whatever the dispute between martyr Captain Anshuman Singh's wife Smriti and her parents, I have personally felt the pain and seen with my own eyes how the attitude of the family members towards their daughter-in-law changes after the martyrdom of her husband. How his wife has to fight a battle with the family after the martyrdom of her husband. This is a bitter truth. In the beginning, the in-laws' behavior is normal, but then when it comes to money, their attitude becomes crooked.
The in-laws start demanding a share in the compensation from the martyr's wife or want to take the entire money themselves. They put pressure to give a compassionate job to a relative. For this, they are mentally harassed and sometimes the behavior becomes so bad that they even raise their hands on them. The in-laws even make the compensation and pension documents disappear or hide them so that the compensation is not received. Lack of information about many things also increases the problems of the martyr's wife.
The people of the society always have an evil eye on the wife of the martyr. The same was seen in the case of Smriti, the widow of martyr Captain Anshuman Singh. When the President gave Anshuman Singh's Kirti Chakra award to Smriti and her mother-in-law Manju Singh, everyone became emotional seeing their moist eyes. But, in the meantime, some monsters also came forward, who made lewd comments about the wife of the martyr on social media. This has not happened for the first time, even though the society pretends to be sensitive towards the wife of the martyr, frustration always remains inside it.
The wives of martyrs often become role models for their children. They not only have to give their children a good education but also teach them what their father did for the country. This responsibility sometimes seems very heavy, but these women often take this responsibility upon themselves. They become an inspiration not only for their children but for the entire family and society.
We should not forget that the wives of martyrs need support and respect. Society should help these women become self-reliant. Government and non-governmental organizations should also make such programs and schemes that provide mental, financial, and social support to the wives of martyrs. The grief, struggle, and responsibility of the wives of martyrs is a story of deep humanity. It teaches us how to move forward despite the difficulties of life. In such a situation, it becomes the responsibility of society to respect these brave women and not leave them alone in their struggle. We should always bow before their strength and courage.