Some people are very afraid of commitment that What would I? But nothing to be afraid of on.
If you’re struggling with this aspect of dating, here are some ways to deal with commitment phobia.
What is it you want out of your relationship? What is your ultimate goal? Do you want to get married? Do you want to be an Oprah-Stedman power couple? If you know what it is you want, it’ll be a lot easier to communicate that with your partner.
You have to be honest with yourself. If something isn’t working in your relationship, examine if that stems from something you feel that you aren’t getting. If you aren’t getting something, is it something you can compromise on, or is it a deal breaker? Either way, it’s okay to know what you want and to express that to your partner.
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Spend some time thinking about your partner and what they want. Have you seen a pattern in behavior? Have you seen something that is concerning? Do they avoid discussions about marriage? Do they say they never want to get married? Do they have a problem with PDA because they don’t want to be nailed down?
Try to see what your partner is going through and what it is they actually want. If your partner is showing you some clear signs that commitment is the last thing that they want, then you have to decide if that’s something you want to deal with.
After you’ve taken a good look at yourself and the other person’s needs, it’s time to have a discussion with your partner about where you guys are and whether you’re on the same page. It’s always a good thing to check in with your partner from time to time. Sit down with them and tell them what your goals at that point in time and see what their goals are. If you guys are still in alignment, great! If not, it doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the world, it just means you need to find if you’re okay with those differences or whether it’s time to move on.
4. Take a Break
Maybe it’s time to not be in a relationship. If you’ve seen the movie “How to Be Single,” you’ll see that sometimes it’s okay if being in a committed relationship isn’t your top priority. Maybe it was you who didn’t need or want the commitment. The best way to deal with commitment phobia is introspection and exploration of who you are as a person. Define your goals and wants and needs for a partner and you’ll be good to go.