It’s very important to have independence in a relationship. Successful, healthy relationships allow for the both people to form a bond which lets them to not only grow together but also to grow independently as people. It’s essential to have your own sense of autonomy while feeling you can depend on each other. Also, if you give up your independence and abandon the things that used to make you happy, it will be reflected in your relationship.
But why is it so hard for some couples to be independent in a relationship? For some, it's because of social anxiety. "A big problem with independence comes from underlying social anxiety. Those with SA struggle and ruminate about what others are thinking and most often infer judgments that are unfair and unlikely about their current self-worth or behavior. Helping to gain self-esteem through experience in social and/or work settings can help. Diversity of relationships is also key. Some people want to have just one partner in crime. But that can mean a lot of heavy lifting for your significant other. If we have friends, family and work colleagues with whom we share meaningful experiences we have less chance of getting burnt out any relationship.
If you feel like you've been hanging out with your partner too much. Then to be independent in a romantic relationship.
Learn To Recognize Your Own Emotions
Learning how to establish a sense of self is vital to helping you grow as an individual. You want to learn how to recognize your own emotions for situations where you need to stand up for yourself and make quick decisions when your partner isn't available. Learning to recognize your own emotions, and how to regulate yourself when your partner seems unreasonable, or is unavailable. Good ways to do this include a daily practice of meditation, calming breathing exercises, yoga, running, swimming or any other physical exercise that reliably produces a calming effect on your body.
Do Something By Yourself
While it's always fun to share experiences with your partner, you want to strive to have some solo ones, too. Get time on a regular basis to do something on your own that you enjoy and that give you energy. Have hobbies or interests you can bring back to share with your partner. This keeps the relationship fresh and allows you both to keep growing.
Understand & Accept Your Partner's Point Of View
It's normal for couples to have a different point of view from each other, and these differences are a great way to establish independence. Learning to recognize and understand and accept the other person's point of view, especially when it's different from your own.
Learn To Be Interdependent, Not Codependent
Being interdependent in a relationship means you and your partner are good together, but you're good on your own, too. When someone is codependent, he/she tends to think that he/she is not OK on his/her own and he/she loses parts of her/him because he/she fears she/he might lose the relationship. Even though it's good to be in a relationship with someone, it doesn't mean you have to be codependent. A relationship won't be considered healthy if you rely on that person entirely for all your wants and needs.
Think of Your Core Values
You never want to change your values to please your SO. While it's normal for someone to change them on their own, you don't want to just because your SO is forcing you to. Don't give up your core values to be in a relationship. Figure out what's most important to you and don't lose sight of that.