Excessively possessive, making it impossible to handle?


Do you feel the inclination to check your accomplice's smses or online discussions? Do you feel the need to know what your accomplice is doing and where he/she is? Everytime your sweetheart/sweetheart goes out with his/her companions, do you get yourself welcomed? If not, do you request every single point of interest of the trip – the general population who they were with?

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On the off chance that your responses to the majority of the above are "yes" then you are in a covering and commanding relationship. Possessiveness by and large comes from absence of trust in a relationship, or insecurities, or simply absence of self-regard.

The control monstrosity

The normal characteristics of a possessive accomplice incorporate unreasonable desire, consistent allegations of playing with other individuals, commanding disposition driven by the need to control and advising how to dress or carry on in broad daylight, frequently checking your messages/visits to see who you converse with and what you discuss, constantly being deluged with inquiries to check how he/she the possessive one) is being exhibited before your companions.

MBA understudy Utsavi Bhavsar says, "Numerous individuals around me are to a great degree possessive about their critical others. For instance, two of my colleagues are seeing someone they make it a point to check each other's companion demands on their long range interpersonal communication locales before they include anybody. Our venture reports likewise oblige us to go to kindred understudies' home to work and I have seen numerous individuals battle about that. The sentiment desire and unreliability comes from awful connections previously. This is likewise a period when one expects more elevated amount of responsibilities than one most likely would a couple of years prior."

About the "youthful" mentality

Nowadays, a few adolescents likewise imagine that if his/her accomplice is being possessive, it's an indication of the amount they give it a second thought. However, there is a flimsy line between really looking after somebody and being plainly possessive. Second year B.Com understudy Palak Sharma, says, "My ex used to check my whereabouts and who I went out with. At first I used to think it was on the grounds that he truly cherished me. Be that as it may, it got a lot when he began ringing my companions to affirm in the event that I was with them. After various battles, I at long last said a final farewell to him."

The virtual effect

Indications of being over-possessive and fixated on a man have been appeared on the silver screen in motion pictures like Vaada, Shabd, Dastak and Dhadkan. Various scenes of shows like Gumrah, Savdhan India and Crime Patrol are likewise committed to discussing such abandoned significant others who can't relinquish their accomplices. With person to person communication locales and miniaturized scale blogging destinations administering the lives of the adolescent nowadays, who think that its critical to transfer their moment to moment exercises and pictures, some of the time the youthful get to be casualties to stalking and digital tormenting.

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Ahmedabad-based counseling clinician Dr Prashant Bhimani says, "Six out of ten cases that I get are about such connections. The conceivable reason for this may be that adolescents don't have a solid association with their folks and their accomplices may be the main passionate stays whom they can stick on to. A few children additionally feel they are second rate compared to others; they are stressed over their image(s) as a consequence of which they vent out their animosity on their accomplices. TV, movies and online networking assume a noteworthy part in this."

Drawing a line amongst consideration and fixation is imperative for a concordant relationship.

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